Tuesday, December 28, 2010

An End & A Beginning...


I've often been one to say that it's up to me to decide who I am.
I suppose this year I'm about to take my own advice quite seriously.

I'm entering a new phase of my life... And with that is coming a new website, a new blog, a complete and total new way of living and even a new name.

Don't get me wrong.  Danielle has served me well.  And to those who already know and love me as Danielle, they can continue to call me by that name... (I'll be keeping Danielle as my legal middle name anyways...)

"Danielle" has become quite meaningful to me, and the name itself represents many lessons and years of living.

Many Summers ago, at a children's camp in Northern BC, I learned what my name meant.  An elderly volunteer whom we called "Firefly," with baby naming book in hand, would look up name after name for the children standing in the long line-up.  Two ahead of me in the line was a girl named Melissa.

"Melissa, you're name means 'honeybee!'"

Wow.  That's kind of cool!

The girl right in front of me was called Sarah.

"Sarah... Oh wow.  You're going to like this.  Your name, dear one, means 'Princess!'"

My turn.

"Danielle? Danielle... Danielle... Ahh.  Danielle is the masculine form of Daniel, which means, 'God is my Judge.'"

WHAT!?  I've been gypped.  What little girl wants to hear that??

Well, several years and many adventures, gains, losses, lessons and successes and mistakes later, my name has become quite precious to me.  I've grown and changed a lot.  I'll never forget the lessons I have learned as Danielle.

But now I'm beginning a new chapter in my life.  New challenges.  New vision.  New passion.  New people.  New lessons.  New growth.

I am incredibly grateful to those who have shared my journey so far--- To my family, my friends, my extended contacts and to those complete strangers who enjoy creeping through my blog from time to time!  (I know you're there! Hahaha.)  Every bit of friendship, support and kindness has not gone unnoticed! 

I invite you now to journey with me into this new season of life...

Enter the age of Maya Kaval.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

If You Love Something, (And You're An Idiot), Set It Free

Okay.  So I know that there must be some grain of wisdom in these words for them to have stood the test of time, blah, blah, blah, but let's be honest.  Most people just use this phrase as an excuse to be lazy underachieving idiots.  (No offense to lazy, underachieving idiots... But you are a bunch of lazy, underachieving idiots.  Just callin' it like it is.)

If you love something, set it free? Really?  That doesn't seem quite right to me.
If it comes back to you, it is yours?  Really?  Like, Que sera, sera... Whatever will be, will be, and all that crap?


I've been schooled in these "words of wisdom" from a young age... There was a poster with this quote on it, hung in the bathroom of my childhood home.  It had a picture of two birds flying into a sunset.  I remember "doing my business" while studying this phrase, and struggling with it.  I never understood, If you loved something, why on earth would you just let it go?

I still don't get it.  The stupidity of this logic actually ticks me off.  I'm still throwing the same question around; If you love something, why the heck wouldn't you get off your ass and fight for it?  Is it not worth that much to you??

If you love someone, for heavens sake, don't just "set them free."  Man up and show them that you love them with your words and actions.

If I love someone, I'm going to make sure they know it.  Will it always be easy? Of course not.  Will I make mistakes?  Absolutely.  But if the relationship is worth having, make it right and put some effort into it.

Set them free?  Give up?  Sure... If I no longer want them in my life.

If you want something, for heavens sake, it's not going to fall into your lap simply for wishing it.  Get your act together and do something about it.  If it was easy, any schmo would have it.  It's going to take some perseverance and indomitable spirit, but if it's worth having, don't give up.

If I want something, I'm gonna work for it... Will it always be easy?  Of course not.  Will I make mistakes?  Absolutely.  But if it's worth having I won't let anything get in my way.

Set it free?  Give up?  Sure... If I don't actually want it.

Quitting on dreams or quitting on people is not going to anybody what they want... And if you somehow think that it is, you've got a whole lot of, "Well, I guess it wasn't meant to be" coming your way.

Is it ever okay to quit?  Absolutely!  Sometimes quitting is the wisest option.  Knowing when, what and who to quit is a valuable life and energy saving skill.  As my friend Daisy put it,

"Pray that you never learn not to care, only that you learn to understand when it is worth spending time making it right or when you can just acknowledge it and walk away knowing you are okay with who you are."

That's not easy.  Walking away rarely is...

But if there is something you want and it's worth having...
For heaven's sake, don't set it free.
Go out and get it.

Back to the picture of the birds...

Do you know what happens to budgies if you set them free??  They die.  Even if they wanted to come home, budgies are migratory birds and have no homing abilities...  They will freeze to death, starve to death or become an easy meal for another animal.

Shall we test this theory out?
Go ahead.  Set your dog free.
How long do you think it is going to sit at your front door, waiting for you to love it again?
I don't know... Until it gets hungry, maybe?
Chances are, starving for affection and food, your beloved puppy may be sniffing at your neighbour's door step in no time.

If you want a sure fire way to kill a relationship or a dream... Go ahead.  Set it free.

If you love something
Set it free
If it comes back to you
It is yours
If it doesn't
It never was

What... A load... Of crap.

This is how it really should read:

If you love something
But are too lazy to go for it
Then don't bother
If it lands in your lap anyways
You are one lucky idiot
If it doesn't
Then that's what you get for being a lazy loser and perhaps next time you could make a little effort

Or how about this one...

If you love something 
(And you're an idiot)
Set it free
If it comes back to you
You're a lucky idiot
If it does not
You're a sorry idiot

That's the way I see it.
Thanks for tuning in...
I'm heading home to go snuggle up to the man who, for the past nine years, has refused to set me free...
I think that speaks for itself.


Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Something In The Water??

Dinner? My place? Anyone?
We were thinking of frying up some zucchini...?

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Thursday, September 30, 2010

It's YOUR fault!

I was just thinking...

What's the point of pointing the blame anyways?
If there is a "fault" at all, it suggests to me that there is some issue or challenge that needs attending to.  What seems, in my mind, (Perhaps I'm crazy?) to be a lot wiser use of time would be, "Let's get all hands on deck and come up with a SOLUTION!"

Now unless you have some incredible coaching wisdom that will help grow the guilty individual, empowering them to avoid the same mistake and to make more profitable decisions in the future, then what's the point of wasting your time finding out whose fault the whole mess is?

Are you really going to dig to the bottom of the manure pile just to point and shout, "AHA!!! It's YOUR shit that stinks!"  

Does that solve anything?  And come on... Does it really make you feel better?

Just some thoughts...



Monday, September 27, 2010


Wow Danielle, live in your car much??

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Sunday, September 26, 2010

On Fuel, Joy and Ninja-ness.

(Choose Joy!  Choose Joy!  Choose Joy!)

Another Morning-- Another Chance-- Another "New Years"
Sunday, September 26, 2010

That's right.  It's time for another start-over.

For anyone who knows me, you know that I LOVE New Years.  It's my favorite holiday.  I love the clean slate and the chance to start again... It's like at the stroke of midnight the whole world is born again, my records are wiped clean and we are all empowered with the chance to write our own story and decide who it is we are going to be this coming year... Or at least for the coming week.

I think that's why I've decided to celebrate New Years so often.  I'll take a fresh start as often as I need one... And today?  I need one.

For the past few years I have been on the most amazing road of rediscovery and reinvention.  Three years and three major lessons.

A quick re-cap!

1. Don't put diesel in your tank if you run off of gasoline.  Can food be enjoyable?  Absolutely!  Keep in mind, however, the primary purpose of food is FUEL.  I learned what kind of fuel my body runs off of and what kinds really mess it up.  Some people "poor you!" me when they hear what I no longer eat.  I "poor you!" them as I watch them suffer with the effects of their bodies trying to function, running on poor fuel choices.  Things I no longer put in my body??  Dairy, wheat, soy, corn, peanut, sesame, alcohol, sugar, eggs, meat, cranberries... And several more.  Not that there is anything inherently wrong with cranberries!  But for me, they are a poor choice as my body does not respond well to them!

The benefits of learning this lesson have been incredible.  I'm 80 pounds lighter, and bounding with energy.  I used to sleep 14 hours a night and then nap all day... I was unable to work, and left my apartment but once a week, and only because I was forced to get out!  Now I am fully capable of working 13 hours with no break (happened last week!) at a full time job that is far from being your average desk job, while dancing 10 hours a week, learning to run and juggling several other social commitments, important relationships and a significant commute.  Not bad.

2. Happiness is a choice.  Was that ever a relief to learn.  For so long my emotions were governed by the winds of circumstance and how I felt was completely out of my control.  Happiness is a choice.  Joy is an art and it is a practice.  How empowering!  I may not choose what happens around me (although I am learning that I have a lot more control in that as well...) but how I feel is completely up to me. 

-->    If you took a sip of something from the fridge and found that it was curdled, how long would it take before you realized it didn't taste good?  Would you swallow, or spit it out?

-->    If you put your hand on a burner, how long before you realized it was hot and painful?  Would you continue to hold your hand there, or would you remove it?

-->    If you smelled something putrid, how long would it be before you realized you did not like the smell?  Would you continue to breath deeply, or would you seek fresh air?  

-->    When you have a negative thought in your mind, how long does it take before you realize your thoughts are bringing you down?  Would you continue to dwell on it, or would you...

SPIT IT OUT.  REMOVE IT.  SEEK FRESH AIR.  Happiness is a choice.  I don't have to dwell on things that bring me down...

3. Black belts don't quit.  Tyron Clark of Clark's Taekwondo taught me this one, and it's changing my life.  I have goals, visions, dreams and hopes... But some days I am discouraged to the point of being absolutely destroyed inside.  Tyron has encouraged me through these times, helping me change from being a quitter to an achiever with three sentences.  "If it was easy, any schmo would have it.  A black belt is just a white belt who didn't quit.  We don't quit."  We're not just talking Martial Arts... We're talking life.  If you want it, don't quit.  Keep moving.

THREE steps forward, one step...

Back.  *sigh*

I'm not the same person that I was three years ago, that's for sure.  These lessons have changed my life... But I'm still on a massively steep learning curve incline and still take the occasional step back.  Today was one of those days.

Today I forgot how to choose joy.  Today  I became wrapped up in a bit of self-pity and negativity.  Instead of realizing my tank was empty and filling it with good fuel, good thoughts and a little bit of indomitable spirit, I chugged around on empty and mulled over some circumstances that were making me miserable.  I forgot that my happiness does not depend on any other person but me.  It is my choice.

I've got to focus on sorting out my own business and doing what makes me happy... If I keep doing that, quality people will naturally want to come along for the ride... And for those who don't?  I don't have time for them anyways...  I'm far too busy moving forward to fight for their attention... 

To all my friends who sometimes struggle to put one foot in front of the other-- Be encouraged.  Have another New Year, on me.

Walking with you, your sister,


Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Bubble bath?

We knew it was only matter of time! Hahaha!!

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